Thoughts of Emma:

 It was just about two weeks ago that I called Emma and asked her if she would help me alter some clothing. I had found some cute things at the thrift store and needed to have them taken in but couldn't do it myself. She said of course she would help me and to come over right away.  So I packed up several things and brought them over to her. I tried things on and she would tell me how to make them fit better. Or tell me what to take apart so I could alter them properly. While I was there she showed me her latest project. A quilt that she was making that replicated a picture she had chosen. Her ideas were so clever and her work so perfect. Then several days later I heard from Shenna that her Mom was ill.

 This knowledge that her time with us might be very short made me look back at all the time I have spent with her.  It was amazing to me that it meant I would have to go back over forty years ago.

 When the Allebes' moved to Fair Oaks, Shenna was in my school and young women's classes. I would go to their home and soon became aware of Emma's amazing skill with sewing and creating masterpieces with fabric and thread. I would look at her work and feel so inspired to try and create something beautiful myself. When Emma became aware of my interest in sewing and handwork she became a wonderful mentor to me. She would show me how she had made her work be so perfect. Teaching me about exactness and working "clean". Working "clean" meant to take the time to trim the threads and to press the work after each step. It also was to sew with exactness and to carefully mark and cut each piece.

 She taught me how to look at fabrics and notions: seeing how the colors and textures could change the overall appearance of my work. She taught me how to manipulate fabrics to create new textures. And she was always encouraging me to keep being creative. Sometimes I would feel the desire to create but not know quite what I wanted to do but just spending a little time with her would help me get so many fun ideas. I would go home and sketch and think about all the possibilities. One of the really great lessons I learned from her was not only to do the best work you could but to put something of yourself in your work. And I learned that to be creative you should be around other creative people. She could inspire me every time I spent time with her.       

 I moved to Utah and married Dan Freed. When Dan and I moved back to Fair Oaks from Utah with two little ones, I was looking for a part time job. Emma had bought the store in Fair Oaks and asked if I wanted to sew the button collection she had bought onto the ends of the boxes she would use to store and display them. When I finished the buttons then she let me put the notions away and straighten the fabric and displays. Sometimes I even got to create the displays myself. She let me take the classes there for free and always helped me get my supplies without straining our small income. I learned how to piece quilts, quilt, and improve my overall sewing. I learned to make dolls, upholster furniture, and make slipcovers. I learned to make curtains and things for my children. And so many other things I can't put them all here. French hand sewing, appliqué, etc. All of these things have come in handy throughout my life. I could make our home beautiful on our small budget and even bring in some income by doing this for others as well. She also let me teach a few classes which was a compliment to me as she only offered the best in her store. One Christmas we were so broke that every present was something created by either Dan or myself. Without the skills she taught me it would have been a bleak Christmas.

 When we moved to Utah so that Dan could finish his schooling it was her recommendation that helped me get a good job managing a fabric store there. And many of the skills I had learned from her I could now teach others with confidence because I had learned from the very best.

 When Dan and I divorced and I moved back to Fair Oaks it was Emma who was the first to offer help. She let me work in the store again and let me clean her house as well. This made it possible to be with my children when I needed to and still make some money. She also helped me find other clients. She would listen as talked of my pain in the divorce and gave me encouragement in my efforts to improve my work. Having the chance to be creative would help me take my mind off the heartache and made me feel useful and of worth. 

 I owe Emma a great deal of thanks. She was a friend to me always. And she encouraged and mentored me throughout our friendship. I would not have had the joy of creating beautiful things without her help. And the ability to provide for my family when it was necessary. And her most recent contribution was to help me alter clothes bought at a small price to look expensive. She showed me over and over how life could be made better by using my talents and improving my skills.

 Shenna told me that her Mom had mentioned that we shared a "special connection". I really feel this was true. She understood me and knew how to support me. And I feel that in me she had a friend who truly admired and appreciated her incredible talents and skills.

 I will miss her so much but I know there will come a day when we will again be able to use our talents to create beauty and fulfill needs. I look forward to the inspiration she will give me at that time.

 She had been a true friend and inspiration and I love her.

Jean Freed

 

       

 

A Memory

I remember the special time before Shenna and Brian were married when we traveled back to Provo as you were trying to tie up all the loose ends before that day.  I hadn't had much chance to get to know you before  - even though I knew of you through the MIA program.  That trip I came to know of you and your family where you had all come from and it was so interesting  but most of all your dedication to serving the Lord.  I knew then that your daughter would be that kind of a special daughter of Heavenly Father for my son.  You are so talented in the arts and how great to have such a talented husband in art.  What a great companionship you have made through the years, complimenting each other's talent in so many ways.  I also saw how you loved and cared for Ted's Mother.  So many wonderful years full of awards for your talents and the great success as a Mom with three great daughters you've raised to be strong women of Christ and wonderful families.   I will look forward to the day I meet you in Heavenly Father's Home.     Marion Mealey

   

Some more about Emma

Dear Shenna,

Thanks for the time with Emma on Friday.  Please thank your dad for me also.  Here's an Emma memory for the blog.



We all know that Emma wore many hats and was loyal to her many commitments.  She and I shared many rides to NWA and SAQA and had lots of time to chat.  In fact we were so absorbed in conversation on one trip, we traveled 20 miles past our highway exit and obviously arrived a little late to the NWA meeting!  Our political views were quite different but we had many common interests.  Emma was so enthusiastic about her art.  She was very generous and quick to volunteer her time.  In fact one year she said that she was going to say "No" to some requests.  I don't think she ever did!  I also remember our discussing identity fraud on one trip.  We talked about shredding junk mail, receipts and the like.  I bemoaned the fact that I had a huge pile of items waiting to be shredded.  Emma immediately said, "Well, I'll shred them for you!"  That was Emma!  I turned her down.  Emma, I want you to know that I've kept up to date on shredding since your offer!

Emma, Dave and I loved our time with you Friday morning.  Thanks to Ted and your family for sharing those minutes.  I'll miss you Emma.

Noelle  (Noelle Tamborini-Olson)

President Emma

When Emma was the President of Folsom Quilt & Fiber Guild she literally kept us in "stitches" with her many stories. It was such a fun year. Several years later no one volunteered to the the president of Gypsy Traders Antique Club. Guess who stepped up to the plate---Emma. We all laughed when she stood before us at her first meeting. She said Ted doesn't realize I'm the new president. I believe Ted was thinking that his Emma should try to not take on so many commitments. Three months had passed, Emma stood before us and with her sweet smile and in her soft voice made the comment again that Ted still didn't seem realize that she was the Gypsy President. We all laughed. It just wasn't in Emma to not help out when or where ever needed. It was a year of laughing with President/Comedian Emma. You have been a dear friend to so many. Thank you for being my friend. I shall miss you so much. I will treasure the many wonderful memories associated with you. My love to you Emma, and to your wonderful family, Lesley Kemp

Thanks for being you, Emma!

Thanks for being all you have been to so many of us in the quilting community, Emma.

I remember so vividly the talk you did at one the River City Quilt Guild’s first mentor night and how in 20 minutes you taught me a million things I never knew before.

But most of all I have loved the way you brightened the world (and I mean that in a very literal sense) with all your bright, whimsical and wonderful quilts and wearables.

I make a pretty bright quilt myself but I think that you helped me know how much I love bright and bold combinations of fabrics – without your example, I don’t know that I would have had the imagination to try some of the things that are now so central to the work I do.

Thank you for everything and may your passage be filled with many moments of love and beauty and thank you so much for all you have left behind!

Susan Sprague

IT'S TIME FOR A LITTLE HUMOR!

One of the things that Mom is known for is her Sense of Humor! Mom has never been very good at telling jokes - she usually gets to the punch line and either gets it backwards or just forgets it entirely. But - she loves to tell little stories that make the people around her smile or laugh! And from the memories that have been shared - her family and friends enjoy hearing them.

Here are a few fun things that have happened in the last few days:

Mom has been giving us Lots of Lists (you KNOW she's a listmaker!) of things we need to do. She asked us last Monday what the date was and when we told her, Sept 21 - she said that it was Tierney's (a grand daughter) birthday and we needed to be sure to call her right away to say 'Happy Birthday'. She has given us lists of bills to pay, reminded us to call someone about the paper products she had in her car trunk for the Folsom Quilt Guild and been happy that Dad reports that he is keeping his bed made.

A couple of days ago when she was giving us some instructions, she told us that we'd need to teach Dad to use the washing machine. As much as Dad is a wonderful help around the house and a Master in the garden - he really doesn't have much (any?) experience with a lot of the day to day household chores. I told her that we'd make sure Dad knew how to do the laundry and since he knew how to use a rototiller I was sure he could use a washing machine. Mom shook her head a little bit and wasn't quite sure. She has taken such good care of Dad for 54? years that there will be lots of things for Dad to find and figure out. Of course we know that Dad is wonderfully capable and might spend some time on a few 'treasure hunts' trying to find things - but he'll catch on to the domestic chores quickly!

Oh - I just realized that Mom & Dad's Anniversary was last week when all this was beginning....HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MOM & DAD! - thank you for an example of love, commitment, support, friendship, genuine admiration, service, encouragement in your relationship....the list could go on and on!

Another thing that Mom told us last week was that Dad needs help cutting his toenails! Since having hip replacement surgery years ago, it's difficult for Dad to reach his toes. She told us that he needs to take a shower first so they're softer and easier to trim. Mom said that if Dad doesn't keep his toenails trimmed, he gets holes in his socks. Dad said he could just buy new socks. I told her that we could also cut the toes off the end of his shoes so the toenails could just grow out. She rolled her eyes at our ridiculous suggestions and shook her head...those suggestions were just NOT acceptable!

Dr. Cen was the Hematologist that gave us Mom's diagnosis and helped our family understand her situation. Mom really liked him!...and so do we. She told him that know she knew about what he does in his work and that he should come to her home and see what she does - she'd like him to see that. You know how much Mom LOVES people to see her home! I think he was taken aback by her invitation - I don't know how often he gets invited to his patient's homes - but I believe he was also pleased.

Mom was telling Dr. Cen that she was just amazed at what was going on. How quickly she had become ill and with the diagnosis. She said 'it all started with a bloody nose'. Then she told Dr. Cen how her Dad taught her to take care of a bloody nose:

"You take a small piece of tissue and fold it up flat. Not as wide as your mustache (Dr Cen has a mustache) but wider than Hitler's mustache (those are Mom's words!). Then you get it a little wet, squeeze out the water and place it under your top lip in front of your gums - right under your nose." Dr. Cen didn't really know what to make of Mom's little story, but it sure made Heather & Dad & I laugh!

We had a wonderful day together yesterday (Saturday) as a family. The youngest kids spent hours in Opa's garden catching butterflies (actually cabbage moths), having them tickle their hands and putting them in a jar to watch them flutter. The rest of us visited, shared silly stories, spent time loving and taking care of Mom, visiting with guests...and eating! Of course, the chocolate is flowing freely in the Allebes home right now! Mom doesn't really have any appetite, but she's eaten half a container of chocolate ice cream by herself in the last couple of days and Dad loves the opportunity to feed her.

Mom told us a couple of days ago that she was concerned about what would happen with 'all my beautiful clothes'. She said they could NOT just go to DI (Deseret Industries). We promised her we wouldn't do that! We shared a couple of ideas with her and decided that we would have the 'gals' in her immediate family get first choice of keeping anything they wanted of Mom's clothes, shoes and hats. Tierney picked Mom's 'Taxi Cab' outfit and Sloane pick Mom's 'Pearly' outfit to keep - those are probably the 2 best 'known' Wearable Art garments that Mom has made. They will be loved by those 2 granddaughters always. The rest of us found different things we would enjoy having - to wear or to just remember the wonderful, creativity of Mom/Oma.

Of course, Mom also has a fabulous collection of hats and shoes that coordinate with many of her outfits...they also need good homes! The girls had fun playing 'dress up' in the back room - putting on different hats, primping and being silly. The 'twenty-something' girls were often surprised and thrilled to see how 'totally cool' and 'vintage chic' some of Mom's clothes, hats and shoes are. It was great to hear their laughter and see them having so much fun. Although Mom was resting, I know she's delighted that they were having a blast playing in her closet! And when they were the things they've chosen - they'll have sweet memories of Oma....

Tyler - Reaka's oldest son - even picked out a couple of Mom's brightly colored linen blazers to wear to school on game days. His High School basketball team is expected to dress up on the days they have games - he'll be 'styling' and flashy in his purple, orange or chartreuse linen blazers. We know Mom will be watching over our family - and she'll think that's 'a hoot'! You know she has never minded standing out in a crowd - she'll love it that the kids at school will see Tyler coming from the other end of the hall!

Last night the granddaughters and I raided Mom's buttons jars and made Button Bracelets. We went to Tayo's Fabrics during the day to buy the bracelet blanks and glue and the girls enjoyed looking around and remembering being there many times with their Oma. We said 'hi' to the chickens in Fair Oaks Village, got lunch for the entire family at the Sunflower Restaurant (LOVE those Nut Burgers!) and after wonderful pies for dessert (Thank You Fair Oaks Ward friends for all the wonderful food!), the girls and I sat down in the evening at Mom's dining room table and played with her buttons. They now each have their own button bracelet to wear and remind them of their Oma when they leave to go home later today.

After all that had gone on during the day - Mom's black and white checkerboard kitchen floor was quite a sight! If it was at my own home, I would have just 'saved it for tomorrow'...but Mom would Never do that! So I got out the broom and swept the floor and Dad showed me how they use their mop (quite an effective little trick with a damp rag) and the floor was quickly clean like Mom would have it before going to bed.

Another Wonderful, Tender Day.....

Emma/Mom/Oma

 Oh Shenna,

My heart goes out to you and your family.  You are and will be in my prayers and for Emma's comfort in this heartbreaking time.  She has been on my mind since I heard she was in the hospital.  I will pray for her freedom from pain that you will all be able to enjoy this time together.  Emma sounds like she is at peace with her decision and I'm sure the Lord will welcome her with open arms.

 

Hugs,

Sheila  Bayley 

6 pictures for you

Oma with oranangatan in the Singapore Zoo.

In the Tamen Negara rain forest in Malaysia Oma with Opa sitting in a hotel

In Room on Christmas day in Thailand Oma with Opa in Kuala Laumper Malaysia

Oma with Sloane in Malaysia

Oma with Lochlan and beautiful runner she had given her Oma and Opa hiking

I think the blog is a great idea. Here are some photos I put up with a
brief description.

I will try and find one with her and Madison before I leave today...

Merritt

8 pictures for you

Oma, Opa and Lochlan with orangatang at singapore Zoo

Oma and Opa with Sloane on a boat ride to Ko Lipi Thailand

Photo at Chris's home coming.

Oma and Madison in Kuala Laumper (not a great photo but this is the only one
I could find with her and madison..on the computer, I will have to dig thru
boxes later)

Oma and Opa in front of the Palmyra Temple

Oma and Opa in NY central park

Oma and Opa in antique car on July 4th in albuquerque

Oma on Cruise to Alaska

A few more photos. You don't need to post all these...just ones you think
are worth while. If you don't think any are worth while I won't be
offended.

Emma Allebes is very ill....

Thanks Shenna:  I heard about her condition two days ago, with sadness, but with joy that soon she will know more than we do here.  Its soon  her time to graduate, and we will miss her.      She is a special lady and I have always had great admiration for her and your Dad.  Two better people were never here on earth.   We will come visit.  If we can do anything please let us know.     Dick & Coleen Carter

 

FW: Your mom

Your mom

It's funny how someone you don't see everday or weekly at church anymore
still has such an impact on your life. I was painting my bedroom when I
received the email from Kim to go to the blog. I just started crying. Your
parents like the rest of the "neighborhood" have been second parents to me.
I can still see myself sitting around your dining table eat meals with your
family. I loved your moms food. I loved popping in on Christmas eve during
the annual open house and looking at the beautiful things both of your
parents had made.
When I quilt, I always think about your mom.
It has been such a blessing in my life to have grown up around such a
humble, stalwart woman like your mom. Tell her and Bishop Allebes my prayers
and love are sent.
Love
Kristin Snow Reed

Sent from my iPhone

Emma

Shenna,

 

Sheila Bailey forwarded your email about your Mom.  I am so sorry to hear how ill she is but also so proud of her faith and gift of acceptance to her family.  My prayers will be with you all.

 

Geayne Verhees

Emma

Shenna,   Your Mom is such a lovely person, I wish her and your Dad, you and your sisters joy is the time you have together. Enjoy the moments, that's all any of us have. Love to you and your family you are all so special. Sandy Keith

 

Memories of Emma

MEMORIES OF EMMA

by Dianna Greer Bybee

 

 

My memories of Emma Allebes span nearly 40 years since I was a young teenager growing up in Fair Oaks, CA.  Many of my fondest recollections center around the Allebes home on Sunset Avenue.  Emma's home was just around the corner from where I lived.  I recall turning into the driveway, then the sound and feel of gravel scattering beneath my feet or tires as I approached.

 

I spent many happy hours visiting with Shenna, one of my closest friends, and her family.  Emma always made me feel comfortable and welcome.  Emma's home was so fascinating!  I loved to visit the studio behind the Master bedroom to see the latest creations Emma or the girls were working on—quilts, dolls, wall hangings, clothing…

 

To me the Allebes home was as exciting as any museum!  Between Ted's beautiful art work and Emma's imaginative crafts, there was always something new to enjoy.  I especially loved the arrangement on the dining room wall.  And the measuring wall was fun to search—I prided myself in having a spot on it!  Through the years I often brought visiting friends and relatives over to Emma's to tour the works of art displayed throughout the house.

 

I am a "food person" so some of my warm remembrances are of food in the Allebes home.  It was thrilling when the 'Dutch Man' came by.  I prized the yummy ginger cookies and other treats.  The Christmas Eve open houses at Emma's were always a favorite!  I also liked eating "Hutspot" and will forever remember Shenna's unique Scandinavian wedding ring cake.  When I finger through my recipe box I sometimes see "Tiajuana Torte by Emma Allebes."   It was something I loved as a teen and make even now as an adult.  I think of Emma and it makes me smile. 

 

When I think about Emma I think of a fine seamstress.  I think of Christmas trees displayed until Valentine's Day, and wearable art.  It goes without saying that Emma is brilliantly creative.  But more than that she is a kind, lovely woman.  Emma is also lots of fun!  I can hear her warm laugh even now!  She is a great conversationalist and is so interesting to talk to.  Although she has been one of the busiest women I have known, she always takes time to visit with her friends.  When I come to town, she is always warm and interested in what I am doing.

 

Knowing Emma has added color and spice to my life.  I feel blessed to have associated with her and I am privileged to call her my friend.

 

I love you Emma.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

With love,

 

Dianna

 

 

 

 

 

The first time I remember Emma was when the Allebes family moved into our
neighborhood in Fair Oaks. The property they bought was wonderful - full
of beautiful almond trees that blossomed in mid February. The little farm
house was not nearly as beautiful as the property. With the touch of two
artists, the house was turned into a much larger, wonderful home where
friends were always welcome. The Christmas Eve parties were a big hit,
even though we couldn't attend because of our daughter Kristin's
birthday. It wasn't long until that home became an art museum that
everyone loved to visit.

Kristin spent many hours visiting with Reaka, learning that she must
"clean her plate" before she could have anything else to eat, and she
also learned that Allebes girls had chores to complete just like she did
at home. It was great to have values reinforced by Emma. Reed and I
figured that it took a whole neighborhood to rear good children, and we
are so thankful that the Allebes family was part of our neighborhood.

The walks Emma and I took each morning for many years are among my
fondest "Emma Memories." We called our daily walks "exercise" even though
they rightly should have been called "strolls." We mostly talked. I
learned about her childhood home in Ogden, her Saturday trips to the
movies, her mother's ability to create whole stories from viewing a
smalll happening, her latest wearable art project, and many, many more
interesting facts of her life. Around Christmas time during these walks
we would discuss seating plans for the Ward Christmas Dinner. When we
arrived back home Emma would get out her very, very neat, very, very
small handmade diagram/ list and add all that we had discussed during our
walk. Emma had the smallest, neatest handwriting I have ever seen.

I haven't written about Emma's great artistic talent, but I'm sure
everyone else will mention this. But, I must mention how willing Emma has
been to serve. She even volunteered to be Secretary for our Daughters of
Utah Pioneer camp, even though she just hated to be a secretary. As she
lay in her "hospital bed with a garden view" she whispered, "I'll do
anything to get out of being a secretary."

Emma will always be my very dear friend. I love you, Emma

LaNae Snow

I can't seem to find if this posted or not--so here it is again with an addition

Hello Shenna and family

We are all saddened by the news that our beloved Emma is ill. But I rejoice with you and your family in Emma's joining those who have gone on before her. We that remain of course in this earthly tent are saddened because our beloved wife, mother, grandmother, friend, fellow artist have gone home to be with our Lord and Master. I look forward to that day myself when there will be no more pain and suffering and yes seeing my family and friends Emma always talked about family and how important you all are to her.

I met you (Emma) many years ago at Tayo's of course. When I moved from Folsom to Fair Oaks Tayo's was a necessary stop when I needed fabrics not only for quilting but my wearable art garments. I took a creative clothing class from you in the late 90's. You talked about something called Fibonacci--some mathematical concept that I never did grasp. Though I have it recorded and some day maybe I will! There is/was something special about you, that made me want to be know you better. You are always so full of unique ideas and helpful whenever a question arrived, and believe me I have had many a time when I needed your advice. The last one was when I called and a quilt had been skewed when professionally quilted. You always told me you square blocks/quilts on the floor, sometime I hope to be able to do that, though impossible in my house with a child and cat.

One time I accompanied you to an event you were speaking at. You wanted a traveling companion. I can’t tell you how frightened I was coming home. You kept dozing off. I asked you if you wanted me to drive and you said “no”. You said just keep talking to me and then you rolled down the window. I of course was the obedient child and did exactly as you said.

As time went on, I became a competitor in wearable art. As a non professional I did not have to compete with you, but share the stage with you. As time went on eventually I did have to compete with you and boy was I honored! Emma, you always made the nervous time of waiting to pass quickly because of your humor, not only at the Folsom guild challenges, but at Paducah fashion show. Emma's, you are always so welcoming and friendly. You are tactfully outspoken too, no mincing words.

When the little circle group formed, it was going to be such an honor to be in a group with the famous Emma Allebes! Every time our group met at your home, you are so hospitable. We created a breast cancer auction quilt in your studio under your direction. Your wearable art on the mannequins show how proud you are of your work. Though there was humbleness and a history lesson when asked about each piece. Each time we took a tour of your garden I was amazed at how bountiful and big it was. It was like walking thru the Garden of Eden itself. I always loved kicking off my shoes because the grass was so plush.


I have always admired your precision work. The great lengths you took to coordinate shoes with outfits. To increase show and tell at the guild you gave away a pair of socks each month. I will remember your signature checkerboard borders or bindings.

You leave a legacy of character, a love for others and power in the faith you possess. This is a legacy that will last and carry all who know you till we see you again.

Susan Patzer-Hicks

Friendship

Emma, we go back a long way with many happy memories. I think we
meet taking folk art painting at Yankee Drummer. This was even before
you opened Tayo's. Your talent and generosity give us all
inspiration. I have modeled your wearables with pride over the
years. Of course the one I will always remember most is the penny rug
jacket that I knitted the sleeves to match your socks. You and your
family have a wonderful strong foundation. I was able to contact
Janet Larson today and am giving this blog address to her. I hope to
come by and spend a little time with you on Monday. You and your
family are in my prayers. Thank you for your advice and friendship
over these many years. Peggy Clark

Emma Stories

I think it was at the Spring Tahoe meet that I started an oriental quilt. It was going pretty well till I got to the binding. It had an uneven lower border with four inner corners [for lack of a better word]. I could not figure out how to do the binding in those inn

er corners plus due to arthritis my fingers are numb. Several months later at a guild meeting I was sitting next to you Emma, and was asking you about it. Before I finished and before I even mentioned my numb fingers you said, "I'll do it for you".and you did,you Angel. I won a second prize ribbon on it. On the critique the only positive remark they made was really for you. They said the binding wasbeautfully done. Thats not all,Emma. I tried to enter it in the State Fair. It wasn' accepted ,but, on the critique the only positive thing they said was, you guessed, THE BINDING IS BEAUTFULLY DONE  Thanks Emma

Love, Barbara Ree

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Remembrances of Emma

My overall impression of Emma is one of quiet efficiency with a mixture of "imp."  She was superb in all things she addressed in her life: loving wife and mother, exquisite fabric artist, devotion to her religion, generosity to family and friends and a willingness to go the extra mile for anyone.

Emma was funny, too!  Many times at Pen Women meetings or Gypsy Traders she'd tell a silly story on herself.  One of my all time favorite remembrances was when Ted was our featured speaker at Gypsy Traders and the banter between the two of them, telling "the rest of the story," or correcting one another's "memory" was hilarious and all in good fun. 

And then there was the time no one stepped up to be President of Gypsy Traders, so Emma did.  She was already so over-committed, but she felt it her duty to fill the post.  Problem was, she was hesitant to tell Ted.  Each month as she stood up to conduct the general meeting, our members would ask, "have you told Ted yet?"  And for months she answered, "not yet."

Ted, I still don't know if she ever told you!

Emma, like Ted, was a very talented artist.  Her fabric pieces of wearable art and quilts were indescribably beautiful and won many awards.  The work was impeccable and must have taken her untold hours of dedication.  Her handicraft was detailed, creative and in many cases hinted (or howled) her impish side.  Her bright colors and choice of subjects delighted all who knew her.   Emma was always dressed in a perfectly matched outfit, be it one of her own designs or otherwise.  

And I mean matching, right down to her wristwatch and shoes!

My dearest, but most bittersweet memory of Emma, was my last visit to her as she lay dying in her hospital bed at home with her loving family swirling about her.  As I approached her bedside with a bouquet of flowers from the Sacramento branch of the National League of American Pen Women, she opened her eyes and softly called for Ted.  "Look, look, she whispered as she smiled at me through a morphined haze.   "Her shirt matches the flowers."

Emma, ever the artist and dear loving friend.  I will miss you greatly.

Love, 

Liz Thayer

Blessing to you Emma and your family

Dear Emma, I have such fond memories of you and all the fun we shared being on the board of the FQFG long ago.  Your spirit and knowledge were always inspiring to me and well as your kindness.  Bless you and your family Emma, you will be sorely missed.  love, Carole Reil

Emma's Quilt Poem

Emma's Quilt

 

 

In addition to fabric, Emma has quilted her life, overtime,

She has taken life's fabric and laid out a beautiful design.

 

Emma has organized the swatches and stitched them together,

She has created a life that brings other's great pleasure.

 

Emma has chosen the fabric, texture, and color with care,

The most important she's chosen, is Ted, for 54 years, he's always been there.

 

Ted has been the quilt frame that holds up fabric by the yard,

With his support, Emma's quilt has been enhanced and enlarged.

 

In addition to being the quilt frame Ted has added much to the design,

He has given Emma and his family, his love, his strength, and his time.

 

Like the fabric of a Quilt Challenge, from which something beautiful is made,

God gave her three daughters to teach and to aid,

 

Each girl has thrived in their own special way,

Emma's influence on them, continues today.

 

Some of the best embellishments of the last 20 some years,

Has been her nine grand children who bring her such cheer.

 

To that, three great grandchildren add to the fun,

She loves and enjoys them, each and every one.

 

In addition to the fabric of family, Emma has added guilds, church, service and friends,

To these her commitment, has known no end.

 

Emma has sewn in a smile, or a joke here and there, shared a laugh and some fun,

This is the yellow, of which, each quilt, should have some.

 

She's quilted for fun and she's quilted her life,

She's stitched things together to be a good Oma, mother and wife.

 

We each are so glad that she has stitched on our souls,

Through us her quilting will live on, wherever we go.

 

With love,

 

Max (son-in-law)

Message to Emma

Dearest Emma:

I am in Utah visiting children and grandchildren.  I was Shocked and saddened to hear of your illness,.    I hope you and your family have a wonderful memory session together.  I wish I were there to drop by and visit with you  and thank you personally for the great influence you have had in my life.  We shared some pleasant times when our husbands worked closely together in their church callings.  I have always admired your artistic talents and loved to bring friends by to see your exquisite quilts.  What  a beautiful, visual legacy you will leave your children and grandchildren who are fortunate to own one of your quilts.

I'd like to thank you and Ted for your recent help in designing a quilt for my grand daughter.  My ideas turned out to be beyond my means and I had to go to plan  "B".  But you and Ted spent much time helping me and I  appreciated all your help.  You two make a wonderful talented artistic team.

I also enjoyed our association in our Relief Society   book club.  Your insight was very interesting. 

Emma, you have been a wonderful example of love and kindness and extended yourself in unselfish service.  

I love you and will miss you greatly.  May God Bless you and your family.

                                         Sincerely,   Coleen

Sorry

Shenna, I am so sorry.  Your Mom is the most wonderful person.  So well liked and a stallwart of the church.  Very opinonated but thats okay because that's Emma.  Take care our prayers are with you and your family.  Love Joeann Rollins

Emma

Thank you so much for taking the time to share this information.

My thoughts and prayers are with Emma and all the family as I know exactly
what you are going through. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and chose to
remain home where we lovingly cared for her. I frequently spent time in the
last couple of days reading A Chid's Garden of Versus to my mother...this
was a book she had read to me for years when I was young and that is how I
learned to appreciate poetry.

Cry freely, laugh freely, remember all the good times with each other end
share them with Emma.

It is a remarkable journey, this end of life thing....for all involved.
Remember to take care of yourselves also.

We found Kaiser to be absolutely fantastic and their hospice program really
helped me to deal with many of the issues we faced.

I only know Emma through SAQA and have only spoken briefly over the years at
meetings. She has always been a warm and friendly woman with a great laugh.

Please tell her I am with her in spirit and are so many other people whose
lives she has touched.

Blessings to you all and keep in mind that the strength of the Lord is with
you all

with care and love,
Liz Berg

Good evening

I did not know your Mum particularly well, I just enjoyed her fun loving sense of humour at the Folsom Quilt and Fiber Guild. For that reason I will not call or drop by as so many family and friends will want to do so.

 

Because of my love for you and the respect I feel for you I wanted to just say my love thoughts and prayers are all heading your way. And I do so miss seeing you from time to time if only for a moment,

 

With much love

Sally Grey

Kiss your Mom and Dad from us....

 

Last night I remembered something about your Mom and Dad.  I recall your Mom telling us that she had planned her own funeral.  At the time I remember thinking that I was listening to possibly the most organized woman in America.

 

In the past few months we(my husband and I)… have lost both of our Mom’s.  Do you know how nice it would have been to have had them plan their own funerals??

 

She has given all you kids a gift……and it will be such a relief as you progress through this time together.  It will give you time to focus on the important things…..listening, holding, loving and being together!!!

 

Believe me…..every second now…. will be memorable for all…..

 

I was thinking about your Dad last night and today too….he also, is one in a million. 

 

I kept thinking about him in his garden…..talking to God about what is happening to his wife…..and wondering why all that fresh food did not save her from disease.

 

Emma’s sickness is making many people very sad.  It also opens the door to lots of people showing how much they care and love another human being.  It is good that they can express their feelings on-line through the blog.  I love that they can let her know how much she means to them….while she is still able to hear and see them.

 

Good night…..and thank you for being you and being such a great and caring daughter.

 

Kiss your Mom and your Dad from us…..

 

terryxoxoxo

 

 

Tempo Park Ward Email - 10/2/09

Shenna,

I am so sorry to hear about your mother.  She's such a lovely person and she's certainly made her footprint on the world. My prayers will be with your family.

Linda

P.S. Kim is now working for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. If you need any information, just let me know.

 Linda Welch Hicks 

harp music for Emma

Hi Shenna,

Thank you so much for your feedback.  I saw Elizabeth today and she was so grateful for the opportunity to play for your mother.  She commented repeatedly on what a peaceful presence your mother has. 

I will be pleased to come Sunday evening.  Would you like to call me that day after family leaves, and set up a time?  I'm completely flexible that evening.  Our prayers are with you.

 

Aileen

 

 

Aileen - I know Mom loved having you come on Sunday!  She mentioned that several times.

 

Thank you for asking your friend - Elizabeth - to come by yesterday to play for Mom.  She came during a time when Mom was feeling agitated about wondering when she was going to be home.  During the harp playing, Mom relaxed and fell asleep soundly for a while - she needed that then.  When she woke - she felt bad about falling asleep during the music and I assured her that Elizabeth understood and was pleased that her music had been so calming for Mom.  It was perfect timing! Please share that with Elizabeth.

 

The family will be in town today to spend time with Mom.  We are going to TRY to keep things calm - but that will be a challenge!  Most of the family will leave by Sunday afternoon.  Perhaps you could come by sometime Sunday evening to play for Mom?  I'm sure the beautiful, relaxing music will be welcomed by all that are still there! 

 

thank you so much for your friendship to Mom and this beautiful service!

 

Shenna Mealey

Hi Shenna,

I am a member of your Mom's ward, and have been blessed by her talents and your father's.  I went to the hospital on Sunday and played the harp for her.  (I am a Certified Music Practitioner & play regularly for Kaiser patients in Roseville.)  She seemed to really relax with the music, and I hope it helped.  I would love to come often if it would help her.  I am most available in the evenings, though there are other times I could come.  The music would be for therapy purposes, not entertainment or background while others are visiting, and would probably be most useful if she has pain, anxiety, or other physical discomfort.  Sometimes it is very helpful at night at bedtime.  Sometimes it is as much for the caregivers as for the patient.

 

Please let me know if I can help. 

 

Aileen Kelley

 

Emma and the Circle of Friends

Your mother helped to get the Circle of Friends quilting group started,
about three years ago, I think. It started out with mostly Folsom Quilt
Guild members who lived in Fair Oaks, and we called ourselves the
FOFO's--the Fair Oaks Fabulous Optimists. We didn't really like this name,
so we changed it to the Circle of Friends. We all send our love and prayers
to your mom and her family. We love Emma very much and will miss her
terribly.

Once a month we gather, in a member's home, to sew or just chat, and to help
each other with our projects. Your mother's advice has always been
respected and appreciated. Show and tell has always been the most fun with
this group; and you can imagine how we all have loved the times when we
could meet at your parents' home, and enjoy your father's artwork as well as
your mother's beautiful creations. Recently, we met at your parents' home
and had a tour of the vegetable garden--also a beautiful creation! We got a
kick out of the explanation of putting the red plastic under the tomato
plants to encourage the tomatoes to turn red!

With love to you and your family,

Judy Snook

Emma

 

I never met your mom, but I saw her name on many amazing quilts.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.  On Monday, October 12 it will be 4 years since my mother passed away.  It was also important to her and all of us to have her at home.  I'm thankful I was able to get down there on her last lucid day (our last interchange, I showed her blocks from the quilt I was working on at the time), and was holding her hand with my 3 sisters when she left us.  I hope you will be able to have a similar experience (that might sound odd, but I think you know what I mean).  And I hope for a peaceful journey for Emma.

   

    Inga 

 

Emma

Hello Shenna,
I am now giving away my age but I remember your Mom & you at Tayo's, both
always the epitome of cheerfulness. Well, who wouldn't be cheerful at Tayo's
because we always had some special project in mind making us like Children
at Christmas with Sugarplums on our brains, but you guys really were
contagious.
Thank Emma and Thank you for being you!

Our prayers and thoughts are with you all at this very trying time!!!

Hugs to all!
marilyn [Demas]

Emma

Emma
You are one of the most artistic quilters I have ever met.  I was so impressed with the Golden Bear quilt you put in this years quilt show.  More than all the beautiful quilts and wearable art you created is your attitude.  You are the person who is always ready to help other quilters.  Your patience, your kindness and your wonderful smile is what I will always remember.  At Zephyr Cove retreat in May, I was having difficulty figuring out how to finish a quilt.  I was trying to finish this quilt for my dear friend Debbie who died so that I could give it to her daughter.  You had told me that you would help me.  Then it turned out that I had to leave a day early because Pam hurt her back and I needed to drive her home.  When you found out I was leaving you told me to call you and I could come by your house and you would help me.  I did not do this because I didn't want to impose on your time.  But your generosity of spirit in always reaching out to help and encourage others is something that all of us at Folsom Guild will never forget. 

May God bless you and your family.

Barbara Kiehn

Emma

I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's diagnosis. She is sooooo unique and I
LOVE that about her! She & your Dad are great people and I have fond
memories of them. I'm sure I've told you before that when we moved into
their ward as newlyweds they had us over for dinner. They wanted us to talk
to their teenage daughters about our fairly recent temple sealing. You had
just left for BYU, but they still set a place for you at the table! I
thought that was so cute, they missed you a lot. Our prayers are with all
of you. I hope your memories and story-sharing brings everyone great joy at
this tough time. Love you, Ann Weeks

Your Mum

Shenna, Jim read me your email last night.  I am so sorry.  Your mother will be so proud of how you presented the info to her friends.  She will also be proud of how strong you are being at this tough  time.  Please tell her my thoughts and prayers are with her, your  family, and especially with you Shenna.  I commend her decision to embrace quality of life over quantity, realizing of coarse that it is a very personal decision.  Words cannot express the sadness I feel for her having to give up such a wonderful family here, but also rejoicing in the knowledge that she will be with family she has not seen in so, so long.  Shenna if there is ANYTHING I can do for you or if you just need an ear to listen please call  and it’s yours.  Again I am so sorry that you both have to go through this, but savor every moment you still have together.  God Bless You, now and forever,,Vicki Gillis

Emma

Shenna,

 

I was so very sad and shocked to hear about your mom!  I just received an email today.  I tried to post on her blog, but it didn't work. Probably because I didn't do something correct.

 

Your mom gave me my first quilt class.  She is a delightful lady and was always so willing to share her talent.  She is such an inspiraton to me.  I have always admired her talent.  She is a delightful lady.

 

How are you doing?  Have you sold the store?  My prayers go out to you and your family.  This must be very hard for your father .  He is a wonderful man.  I am so glad you live nearby. 

 

Your family is in my prayers.  Thank goodness for our knowledge of the hereafter and our membership in the church. 

 

Ellen Sly

Emma

Hi Shenna,

     I was saddened to hear about your mother this week.  She is such a neat lady and so wise and giving of herself.  Our Circle of Friends group enjoyed the many stories she told us of her life and all her current projects.

Her sewing room was the envy of our group; everything in its place and the many interesting storage units makes it especially hard for anyone to duplicate.  She told us about her new counter top and not having to scrub the grout any more.   

 

My prayers to her and to all the family.

Beverly Purdue

A WONDERFUL DAY - FAMILY & FRIENDS

This has truly been an amazing day. The family is now all here...what a group! Mom & Dad love all of us so much...and we love them! My prayers the last couple of days have been that during this weekend, Mom could be alert enough to enjoy her family and that the kids & grandkids coming into town would have an opportunity to express their love for their Mom & Oma. That has been happening all day long!

The house has been busy with Hospice help (wonderful people!), lots of friends visiting, friends from Mom & Dad's church bringing over dinner for ALL of us. And add to all that the 23 of us! During some stretches of the day, Mom has been much more alert than in several previous days. It seems that almost every time visitors have come, she has become aware and able to express her appreciation for her guests....what a wonderful blessing and answer to prayer!

We've had deliveries of beautiful flowers, many lovely cards, a wonderful meal, lots of chocolate, portacribs, etc. Mom & Dad have such wonderful friends. Since the 3 of us 'girls' grew up in this area, it is nice for us to also have an opportunity to renew so many friendships. Mom has enjoyed chocolates with caramel, plain dark chocolate, chocolate pudding, chocolate ice cream, melted chocolate ice cream to make chocolate milk (are you seeing a theme here!?)...applesauce, ice chips and some nice drinks of water and milk. Probably more than she has eaten in the last 3-4 days combined! She NEVER complains - but has made a couple of funny faces about some of the medicines she takes. More chocolate to wash it down!

The Family Photo

Here's a picture of our entire family that was taken when we were together for Christmas 2008....it's great to have everyone together again.

Shenna Mealey

shenna@bmealey.com

www.shennamealey.blogspot.com

Another Quilt Retreat

And then there was the retreat when practically everyone, including
you, wanted to copy Deb Winterling and make this Happy Jack wall
hanging. Emma, you joined in on the shopping trip to buy all the
different fabrics and it was YOU alone who took the time to cut up
the fabrics to make fourteen (14) kits for us. Every time I have
look at my Happy Jack I have thought of you and I always will.
We shared so many good times together at Zephyr. ~ Carolyn

Emma

Emma, Where can I start?  A special lady that made everyone feel good. Her big smile always there.  She was so supportive of me and gave me such good advise when I was a quilt show chairperson at another guild.  She was an encourager, and when she left the room you felt so much stronger and capable of doing any task before you.  I loved Emma because she was Emma.  I loved her "Out of the Box"  style.  Her way of becoming a close friend when you only saw each other once in a long while.   A unique talent that few posses.  I shall never forget her hugs when she did not know one was needed.  My life has been better because I knew her. Emma may you and your family share Peace, be surrounded by Love, and have Healing from all you hurts and pain. Love and Hugs, Shirley Taylor, Yuba City

May 2008 Quilt Retreat

Emma . .

Remember how beautiful it was up at Zephyr in May 2008 and then 2
days later it was snowing on us when we had teh group picture taken??

Emma's Patience & Kindness

Twice a year the Folsom Quilt & Fiber Guild has a 5 day retreat at Zephyr Cove where we sew, quilt, laugh and bond with great women, one of the greatest being Emma!  She is definitely known as one of our "Goddesses of Quilting",.  This is a little story of how kind, patient and supportive she is -- amazing.

 

I am a totally amateur quilter, especially the quilting part.  At one retreat I was practicing my quilting on a cuddle quilt (quilts the guild gives away to needy and abused children, chemo treatment centers and others).  I had finally finished the border and was rather proud until I turned it over and found thread loops around the entire border.  Being a quitter I said "Well, I'll just cut off the border, bind it and have a bassinet quilt." 

 

Emma came over & said she wanted to take it and clean up the thread.  I protested that I couldn't let her do that, it was a mess.  Emma insisted, saying she had nothing else to do  (oh, yeah, right!) and it wouldn't take any time at all.  I finally gave in.  This was about 9:30 in the morning.  That wonderful woman sat for at least 6 hours pulling out thread, with me trying to convince her she should stop.  When she was finished she came over, presented me with the salvaged quilt, and announced with a flourish that she was also gifting me with a 230 yard ball of thread!,

 

What a friend!  At the next guild meeting for "Show & Tell"  I "told" the story and "showed the quilt and thread.  She got quite a round of applause as well as a few gasps of awe.

 

Thank you, my dear Emma.  While we have never been close, close friends, I shall miss you, your kindness, your creativeness and your profound knowledge forever.

 

My prayers and loving thoughts -  Ila Darling

MOM IS HOME!

Mom is home!

Thursday was a long day for Mom. During the morning and while still at the hospital – she was anxious to BE home and kept wondering when that would happen. The staff at Kaiser have been so amazing and supportive – I was impressed and grateful with how quickly everything was taken care of.

I had to run an errand for the nurses to the Pharmacy and that took me about 40 minutes. When I returned – Mom told me about enjoying several visitors that had come. I found that surprising and I asked the nurses about the visitors – they didn’t recall seeing anyone come to her room. Her friend, Aileen Kelly who plays the harp – asked a fellow harpist (Elizabeth) to come with her harp and play for Mom at the hospital. That was during the time when Mom was feeling especially anxious about wanting to be home. The music calmed Mom and she relaxed and fell asleep – nice and soundly for a little while. Another Tender Mercy! So – those that actually DO visit, and those friends that she is seeing and remembering in her mind – are all blessings to her and our family.

Her mind is still very alert and she’s still giving us ‘to do’ lists! Mom likes to watch TV while she is in her sewing studio. She kind of ‘follows’ the soap opera “All My Children”. I turned that on yesterday while we were waiting in the hospital to help keep her mind off wondering when she would get to go home. She was telling me all about the plot, who was the good guy and bad guy and who was a really bad lady that killed someone’s brother and someone else was the son of the guy that was killed and someone else was being accused of that murder….she still has all her marbles!

After being transported home, Mom was tired (and a little stressed from the trip) the rest of the day. We had arranged a place for her hospital bed in the family room – where she can see what is going on, look out at Dad’s beautiful garden, enjoy her birdhouses in the backyard and we can watch her and visit with her when she is alert. We had rearranged a few things to make room for her and once she was settled – she had Heather and I busy rearranging them more to her taste! She insisted that we put her ‘Pearly’ outfit right at the end of her bed and up high enough that she can see it any time. She’s still Emma!

She has enjoyed the visitors – and so has Dad. It means a lot to all of us that so many of Mom’s friends want to tell her they love her….both in person, with cards, and through comments on this blog. She’s NOT real talkative right now...WOW – that’s a first! – but she’s so glad to see her friends! Her favorite treats right now are ice chips and chocolate.

Hospice came yesterday also and has arranged to have 24 hour care for Mom in her home. We have hospice coming today for the first shift – the round the clock care should begin tomorrow. We are so grateful for that service! My sisters and I are happy to take care of Mom, but it requires so much time and energy and is so very different from what we are used to – that we are already feeling the exhaustion setting in. There are also a lot of other matters that we need to take care of at this time. And we want Dad to be as relaxed as possible about how Mom is being cared for….we all have great confidence in the professionals! More blessings….

Mom & Dad’s home is now a sacred place….full of love, memories and tenderness. Dad & Mom have always thought of their home as ‘a little piece of Heaven on Earth’…it truly is right now.

MOM IS COMING HOME!!!

Mom/Emma is coming home today! The nurses, doctors and staff at Kaiser Morse Ave have been amazing in taking wonderful care of Mom, explaining so many things to all of us (Mom and her family), and making it possible to have Mom come home as quickly as possible. We are so very grateful to them!


I'm not sure exactly how all this will happen today - we don't usually get to practice this kind of stuff in our lives - but we expect that the medical equipment will be delivered this morning and that Mom will arrive at home sometime this afternoon. I expect that she will be tired from the travel and not sure how ready she'll be for visitors. We're playing a lot of this by ear...


We are bringing Mom home so she can enjoy as much time with family and friends as possible. We WANT and encourage her friends to visit. However, I know you will also understand if you call or come by and we tell you that it isn't a great time...we will appreciate your patience, love and prayers!


We really can't have the phones ringing off the hook - we need to spend our time caring for Mom and taking care of so many things that need attention. We have set up a couple of ways for you to contact us:


Reaka - my youngest sister - will receive phone calls on her cell phone at: 408-710-1036. She may not answer every call immediately, but she will respond via return call or text. She will be in town Fri morning (Oct 2) and we would appreciate it if you contact her between Fri-Sun to see if it will be a good time to visit. Mom's family will be in town during that time and we will appreciate being able to have as much of that time available for our family as possible.
Mom's grandchildren will only have this last short time to be with her.


Thurs afternoon and evening, Fri morning (Oct 1 & 2) - before all the famly arrives - we will encourage friends to drop by. On Thur, you can call Mom's home directly - again we may not answer immediately but if you leave a message, we will get back to you. Or - if you would like to just drop by, you are welcome to do that but please understand that Mom may be sleeping - she drifts in and out all the time.


Visits do need to be brief - please. And - if you have even a little touch of 'something' and are under the weather (or just plain sick!) - please send Mom an email, card or ....something - but we need you to keep your germs home, please...;)! We don't want to complicate Mom's situation with anything else and our own family needs to stay healthy while we're taking care of her.


Mom IS very weak - but we are bringing her home so family and friends CAN come. She loves her friends so much and we don't want to discourage you coming by...please do!


If you can't come by but would like to share a message for Mom, a story or memory of an experience you've had with Mom and/or a photo - you're welcome - and encouraged! - to send an email to me at: shenna@bmealey.com or directly to the blog (my first choice since it will save me some time!). We will share those with Mom, and Dad and our family will appreciate having your thoughts to read and enjoy in the future. I will post all comments and messages I receive concerning Mom also on the blog - if you send me an email and would prefer that it be kept private - please let me know and I'll respect that wish.


I don't want to sound alarming - but there really isn't much time....if you want to be in touch with Mom - I really encourage you to not procrastinate a long time....I will try to post on the blog each day - so you can know what is currently going on. I will also try to get a blog posted in the next day or two that will explain more about how this all began and what Mom has been going through. We also want to share some of the amazing and humorous things that Mom is sharing with us during this time. Thank you for your patience, love and support!


Our family is so blessed and strengthened by our faith in our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ and our knowledge that we can be together again with those we love after we die...also by our love for each other, by the example Mom is for us and by the many wonderful friendships we all enjoy...thank you for being part of that.